Hollywood has long romanticised that special moment. You know the drill, the eyes meet across a crowded room, sparks fly, and everyone lives happy ever after, but lately i’ve been noticing more and more of my friends becoming slightly pragmatic about first impressions.
There was a time when that all-important first date was the ‘make or break’ of a possible pairing. If that coffee, drink or dinner meeting went badly, then all parties tended to swiftly move on to the next suitor they bumped into on a Saturday night.
But recently, the general consensus following a lukewarm date with a potential paramour is to ‘hang on in there’. While he may have had bad table manners, slightly underwhelming conversation skills or look a little less buff than the last time you saw him (at 3am in one of Galway’s finest establishments), if there are any redeemable qualities, then the advice from the sisterhood appears to be ‘give him another chance’ as he might just be ‘a grower’.
While i’m far too cynical and world-weary to buy into the Hollywood stereotype, I have to admit that the suggestion that chemistry, attraction or interest might grow with time doesn’t sit that well with me. Call me old fashioned but if you don’t get a little flurry of butterflies when you see his name pop up on the phone, then it’s really not worth the hassle.
My personal predilictions aside, the concept of our changing boundaries is interesting if nothing else. Maybe it’s the case that our minds are getting a little broader as we get older and we’re more open about the type of guy that we are looking for?
While our younger selves may have written off a fella at the slightest flaw, perhaps we’re realising that we’re all human and a few minor issues aren’t really a big deal.
Either that, or years of battling on the frontline of the Galway dating scene have finally broken down that optimistic outlook and left us hanging on to any redeemable characteristic in the chance of meeting a decent guy and avoiding all that drunken small talk every weekend.
Is it judgemental to say ‘goodbye’ after an average first date or are we grasping at straws due to declining stock options? Who knows, but I think i’ll hold out for that spark for a little while longer!