You know what they say; the eyes are the windows to the soul. I don’t know about all that but what I do know is that the simple act of holding someone’s gaze does wonders when you’re trying to attract someone who you really like.
You would be amazed however at how many people struggle with holding eye contact. The next time you’re talking to a friend or even someone that isn’t that close to you, hold eye contact, not in a creepy way, but calm and collected with a slight smile. You will notice that many people will struggle to hold it for too long.
It exudes confidence if you can hold someone’s gaze. If your eyes are darting all over the place you just look like a nervous wreck or just plain shady. This applies to job interviews, meeting new people and dating. Getting comfortable with eye contact really goes a long way.
Let me lay out a scenario for you that I am sure most of you are all too familiar with. You’re at the bar, sipping away at a cool pint and tapping at the screen trying to get through a few Snapchat stories. You look up and you see this beautiful girl looking your way. What do you do? You avert your eyes for the fear that you would be caught staring.
In this situation you should always hold eye contact and throw a smile their way. That’s it. After that all you have to do is go over and say ‘hi’ and let your inner charmer work his magic. Eye contact shows the person you like that you are comfortable with yourself and you are also comfortable with them.
Now if you’re someone who has never really felt comfortable holding eye contact, don’t worry if it’s a nerve-wracking prospect. It is something that will be become easier with time. Practice with your friends; just don’t tell them your practicing eye contact. That would be weird.
A good tip would be to only focus on one eye at a time with both of your eyes. Never attempt to look at both eyes at the same time, you will look severely confused and as though you had one pint too many.
Just keep switching back and forth between eyes every few seconds and look away every now and again so as not to be too intense. Women are usually much better at holding eye contact than men so if you can match her gaze, you’re going to look that bit more confident than everyone else.
This is something that is so simple but will have a huge effect on every aspect of your life. It can help you form some deep relationships and will prove a huge asset to your everyday life in helping your confidence.
So get out there and look into the eyes and not around the eyes and at least try to notice the eye colour of the next person you are trying to woo.